Get out of your head and stop giving a F*CK

I’m currently reading The Art of Not giving a F*ck and they are making so many valid points and one of them was not putting yourself in a loophole of hell, basically meaning we usually think ourselves into a bad space, we create the anxiety for ourselves. If we just did things and didn’t give a fuck about overthinking the outcome, care about what other people thought, why they might be thinking that and even the fact of why we’re overthinking all this, we would be wayyyyy better off. We can’t control everything so do things without trying too hard, do what feels right and stop trying to plan so much when it usually won’t go that way anyway. One thought leads to the next and next thing you know you’ve caused yourself anxiety and a bad day.

When you get out of your head it’s so much more fun and that’s what I’m continuously learning. Also taking a stop to look around and letting the air hit your face you may realize everything is right where it needs to be, it just may not have happen the way you envisioned. Getting out of our head can actually get us closer to the goals we can’t stop thinking about. The older we get we realize life is really on our terms and we can do whatever we want at whatever pace we want. In the Art of not giving a F*ck the author talks about how continuously focusing on the next thing or worrying about getting more can cause you to think you’re lacking or further behind than you actually are, and that’s honestly so true. I know for me I’m always thinking about accomplishing the next goal and a lot of times I don’t give myself a chance to 1. sit in my current accomplishment or 2. Take a second to realize I have so many of the things I’ve always wanted.

We have to live life without all the extra added stress that we put on ourselves, even though its so much easier said than done we just have to learn how to TRULY stop giving af and just live with no limits whether they are inflicted by others or ourselves. We don’t want to look up and we’ve tricked ourselves out our spot. there’s money in our head but we’ll never get it if we don’t get out of our heads and into reality.

Cheers to getting older and learning how to not give a F*ck even more

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There's no manual to becoming a grown woman

There is no guidebook or blueprint of growing into a grown woman, we’re literally just figuring it out as we go and that means that sometimes we will make mistakes, sometimes we won’t know what to do and sometimes we may even have to start over.

Being a woman and getting older is such a beautiful experience but it is nowhere near easy, there are so many different requirements, expectations and standards put upon us by society, people around us, family, friends and so much more but the reality is this is our life and we have the ability to make it look like whatever we want.

So often people think you should be married by x time, you should have kids at x age, you should be focused on one thing and not the other, don’t try to dream too much because you have to focus on what is “guaranteed” to work, when the reality is NO ONE HAS THE ANSWERS SWAY. We are not required to have kids at all let alone at a certain age, getting/keeping a man and getting married does not have to be a top goal in your life maybe you enjoy being single or refuse to settle AND maybe that dream you’re chasing will pay off. People have so many opinions about our bodies and what we’re “supposed” to look like when we don’t have to do shit honestly and if we like how we look that's all that matters, they mad whether you got the BBL or you don’t. The reality is EVERYONE including other women always have something to say about women.

We are constantly learning, constantly deciding what we want to change or get better at, literally learning as we go. The woman you are right now may not even be the woman you are next week let alone next year and despite what people try to tell you it is okay to change and evolve, that’s literally what life is about. As we get older we learn the things we do and don’t like, we learn more boundaries, we gain more life experience and we learn what’s important and what doesn’t belong. Life isn’t always good but it DEFINITELY shouldn’t be always bad.

As women when we age we learn more about how our emotions work, how our minds work, more about our bodies, our health changes, how we like to present ourselves changes, what we do as a career may change, our interests change. We get more depth with the more life experiences we gain, we realize that the most important thing is to live and make our own rules. We get finer with time in all aspects and no matter the age we are ALWAYS in charge, we can’t allow anyone to make us think differently.