Black women in creative industries matter.

As a multidisciplinary artist myself I admire the Black women that have continued to show us that you can follow every passion you have and be amazing at all of them. That doors will open once you start to create the opportunities for yourself and show the world what you’re capable of. These women that I will mention in this post deserve their flowers because they have continued to break down barriers as Black women and creatives and have never taken “no” for an answer. They have shown us that you can lead the pack and don’t have to follow. It is so important for Black women to have representation in creative fields such as music, fashion and art. We are culture creators and shifters and our presence deserves to be shown and experiences told from our own perspectives.

1. Solange Knowles

First, I want to speak about Solange, she has shown us time and time again that your creativity, talent, knowledge and intellect can open so many doors for you and create so many opportunities. Solange is a singer, songwriter, philanthropist, composer, producer, visual artist, creative director, actress, culture curator and so much more. She has her hands in music, fashion and the arts. As creative people with multiple talents and disciplines, it is important that you don’t force yourself to pick one thing especially if you do multiple things well and are professionally committed to them. Solange has shown us that you don’t have to wait for people to give you the opportunities. You do the work and the opportunities will start to flow in.

She has broken glass ceilings and carved her own path unapologetically. We know that Solange is an amazing singer and songwriter and we have fallen in love with each project she blesses us with from her amazing album A Seat at the Table in 2016 to When I get Home in 2019, but the musical talent doesn’t end there, she has went on to compose an original score for the New York City ballet in 2022 for ‘Play time’, becoming the first Black woman to ever do so, she also premiered her new classical compositions “Villanelle For Times" and "Not Necessarily In Arms Reach," in 2025, in Houston as part of her Eldorado Ballroom performance series that featured the Houston Symphony and the list goes on. Outside of music, in 2013 she founded her creative agency Saint Heron to represent BIPOC creatives and artists, at the end of September of this year Saint Heron launched its digital archive community library that is completely free of charge full of out of print, rare and first edition books on an honor-based borrowing system. She has also released amazing glassware under her company Saint Heron that has sold out immediately each drop.

Outside of her many accomplishments in the music and art realms she is a fashion phenomenon known for her amazing fashion sense and eclectic style, she has served as creative director, art director or even brand ambassador/spokesperson of multiple fashion companies such as Puma, Calvin Klein, Diesel, Helmut Lang, Gucci, Dion Lee and the list goes on. Most recently she has been appointed as the first scholar-in-residence at USC Thornton School of Music, she will have a three year residency where she will be teaching a class on music curation launching in the fall of 2027, also hosting student focused conversations and workshops. As you can see her creativity knows no bounds and her talent has continued to create space for her. She is a prime example of letting your work speak for you and not allowing anyone to make you feel like you have to narrow down your passions, especially if you are actively putting the work into each and doing it to a quality professional standard.

2. Teyana Taylor

Teyana Taylor is another example of being extremely creative and talented and not settling on your gifts. Since she was 16 on My Sweet Sixteen we have witness her share her gifts with us whether that has been in dancing and choreography, music, skateboarding, acting, creative directing and producing and being a fashion icon. Teyana is a full production just as herself and we see why she calls herself Spike Tee. Her, just like other multidisciplinary artists have been told not to go after her other passions and just stick with one thing, but she did what she felt she needed to do and has excelled in every sector she has stepped into. She gave us amazing music from her albums VII, K.T.S.E, The Album and most recently Escape Room, after a break from music, all paired with amazing visuals and live performances. Within the music industry she has also become known as the creative director for some of our favorite artists performances such as Latto, Lil Baby, Summer Walker, NBA Youngboy, Glorilla and more, elevating their stage presence in many ways. She even did choreography for hits like Ring the Alarm at just 15 years old. She is a powerhouse in more ways than one. Her production company The Aunties has become a go to for many artists in the music industry as well as for her own work.

Outside of the music and dance industries she is a fashion icon that gives us breathtaking looks that are so effortlessly her paired with a body that we all want (might I add she was definitely best dressed at the 2025 Met Gala) and often styles herself. Within the fashion industry she has a multi-project partnership with the Jordan Brand, she curated her own collection with Victoria’s Secret this year, she even collaborated with Thom Browne and the list goes on. She is one of the top it girls that has an amazing career and endless talents to back it all up.

Last but never least, she is an actress that we are starting to see more frequently on our screens, She has starred in A Thousand and one, Madea’s Big Happy Family (We all remember Byrannnnnnnnn), recently she has been in Tyler Perry’s film STRAW giving us a FIERCE performance and One Battle After Another alongside Leonardo DiCaprio, constantly proving the naysayers wrong. You truly can do whatever you set your mind to, most people can’t be great at multiple things but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. She has already reached icon status yet I still feel like she’s just getting started and has so much more in store for us and herself.

3. Issa Rae

Some of us were introduced to Issa Rae years ago from her 2011 YouTube series Awkward Black Girl, but the world became familiar with her once that YouTube series branched out into the iconic show Insecure with 5 seasons. Insecure has become a comfort show for many of us twenty something’s, I have rewatched it a shameless amount of times and never get tired of it. Outside of insecure with Issa’s multi project deal with HBO she brought us Rap Shit that was cancelled entirely too soon and recently produced a new classic One of them Days that had us all laughing. Issa is an actress, producer, director, businesswoman, author, philanthropist and more. She has her media company Hoorae Media, she started her amazing Prosecco company Viarae that I am personally a huge fan of, she has her restaurant Somerville in Slauson and she is a partner and co-owner of the coffee shop Hilltop Coffee + Kitchen in Inglewood.

She recently released her second book ‘I Should be Smarter by now’ that came out this year August. As well as philanthropic efforts from a scholarship fund for Alton Sterling’s children in 2016, the Black & Unlimited Digital Developement Program in partnership with Walmart and so much more. Issa is a prime example that if they won’t give you a seat at the table make your own and they’ll start coming left and right. She started her career in the film and production industries but hasn’t allowed that to stop her from pursuing her other goals such as building businesses that give back to her communities and even making her footprint in the fashion and beauty industries by being an ambassador for Stuart Weitzman and Co-owner of Sienna Naturals a hair care company.

From creating her own show and producing it herself via YouTube utilizing friends as actors to now turning her creativity into multiple shows, movies, businesses and philanthropy. She shows us that as long as you believe in yourself and keep putting the passion into your projects when people realize who you are you will have the track record to support the skills you say you have. Don’t wait for the opportunities to come to start doing the work.

These three women are some of the top Black creatives that inspire me to keep going, keep pushing and not feel like I have to limit myself, my passions or my skills just because outsiders might think that I have my hands in too many different things. Keep refining your skills and your gifts and as long as you are operating them all in a professional manner and they aren’t being treated like you have your hands in too many different things you can pursue as many passions as you can handle. Don’t start everything at once but once you feel like you’ve built your project or a passion to a certain point it’s okay to start pouring into other things that you love or are good at. Black women in creative industries is so important because the creative skills and mindset comes to us naturally and we have amazing stories to tell that would only be right coming from us. If your a Black creative girly don’t be afraid to be in those spaces that don’t seem like they want to make room for you, be confident in what you have to offer and what you’re building. They may not be saying it but they’re definitely watching.

Follow that dream until the wheels fall off

It’s so easy for people to encourage you that something is too hard or that thing you want might not work out, but if you want it that bad turn your ears off to the background noise and don’t stop until you make that dream come true. It’s possible but nobody guaranteed you that it would get accomplished quick or gave you a timeline of how long it would take.

Any winner that you come across or person that created major success they will tell you it took them awhile to get to the place they wanted to be, it took hard work, it took trial and error, it took long nights, it took early mornings, it took getting out of their comfort zone, it took trying new things, it took being resourceful, it took so much to now be able to tell the story, so what makes you think you’re exempt from the grind and the process?

If you are willing to give up so easily then this may not have been the path for you anyway. Think about it, what if you chose to give up today and tomorrow was the day it was all going to pay off. What if you talked yourself out of that one idea and that idea is what was going to change your life. Put your goals and dreams before your feelings, your emotions and your ego. The dream is bigger than your mood. Don’t be the one responsible for killing your own dream because you chose to listen to everybody else that’s not where you want to be in the first place.

Don’t be so arrogant that you think you deserve the success without the hardwork and dedication. Nothing comes free and nobody has ever gotten anything that lasted without putting the work in. Stop thinking about the small picture and think big. The big goal isn’t the only milestone, focus on the steps it takes to get to the goal. Don’t be the person that was willing to ride for any and everything but not their own goals and dreams.

I ride everyday at dawn about mine, how about you?

Own your thoughts and get them out! Document EVERYTHING

I’ve had this blog since 2015 and I’m not always consistently posting here, but I’m so grateful to have a space of my own to get my thoughts out. Social media is cool and creating content on my platforms like Youtube, TikTok and Instagram are amazing and I love it but it’s nothing like my own space. I can speak about whatever I want, not having to worry about someone else’s guidelines or rules. Having a way to get your thoughts out as a human being is so important. You must have a journal, a way to express your thoughts whether that’s your feeling about your personal life, or your feelings on current events or topics in the matrix.

I feel like getting your thoughts out helps you to keep your mind, writing and reading skills sharp. It allows you to continuously learn how to formulate educated thoughts and opinions, it helps you to be a better conversationalist. It helps you to trust what you have to say and not be persuaded by others thoughts, it allows you to not keep everything bottled up even when you don’t want to tell anybody else. From creating, content, journaling, blogging and even writing essays when I feel something in my spirit I truly am grateful to have spaces to express and own my intellectual property.

Aside from all of that, writing, having a blog and and journaling just makes me feel like Carrie on Sex in the City, sometimes it makes me feel like Moesha and every other girl character growing up that valued her diary or her computer.

I love this life that I have continued to live and create up to this point of being a 28 years old woman. I love the ability to document it over time, whether I’m sharing it with the communities I’ve built or keeping it to myself. I have always felt like I was living in and creating my own tv show and I love that freedom for me. Recently Tracee Ellis Ross’s tv show ‘Solo Traveling with Tracee Ellis Ross’ released and I absolutely love how she is able to document something so sacred to her like solo traveling, amongst other topics like being 52 and single or not yet having kids and how she doesn’t have to wait for those “major moments” to begin living her life or honoring herself, although I am not single I am very passionate about solo trips and pouring into self. I love how Tracee is able to be vulnerable with how she feels and showing that it is so valuable to build a life you genuinely love and enjoy living, while also documenting it authentically and raw.

If you don’t get anything else from this post I want you to leave with the simple point of, owning your thoughts and feelings and getting them out. Document everything, feel your feelings in their rawest state, be genuine with yourself and how you feel. Live like you’re in your own tv show. Refine your thoughts and become a master of expressing them and formulating your own opinions.

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Dressing well is a nonnegotiable

Being put together, dressing well and investing in yourself should be a top priority despite popular opinion simply because how you look on the outside is the first impression you give someone before you even open your mouth.

Dressing well goes beyond putting on a cute look for this or that occasion, its how put together you are on a day to day basis even in your chill clothes. You want to present yourself well at all times because you never know who you might meet or see and when you look good you feel good. Find your style, try different things, dress for yourself and stop caring about what people have to say about it. Invest in your wardrobe so even when you don’t feel your best you don’t look like what you’re going through.

Invest in statement pieces, professional/work attire, great accessories like bags, shoes, jewelry etc., great outerwear and great day to day basics. When you invest in great pieces you don’t always have to spend so much time putting together each look because no matter what you grab from your wardrobe its going to look good because you’ve invested in your wardrobe.

Don’t let anybody tell you looking good doesn’t matter because it does. You can have all the money, all the intelligence and be well decorated with all the credentials, but you will still fall short if you don’t look the part.

As you can see you see I’m wearing the same coat in several pictures but completely different looks and it looks good each time. I’ve had this coat for years and it still looks as good as when I first got it. That’s what happens when you invest in good pieces, you can keep rewearing them.

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Get out of your head and stop giving a F*CK

I’m currently reading The Art of Not giving a F*ck and they are making so many valid points and one of them was not putting yourself in a loophole of hell, basically meaning we usually think ourselves into a bad space, we create the anxiety for ourselves. If we just did things and didn’t give a fuck about overthinking the outcome, care about what other people thought, why they might be thinking that and even the fact of why we’re overthinking all this, we would be wayyyyy better off. We can’t control everything so do things without trying too hard, do what feels right and stop trying to plan so much when it usually won’t go that way anyway. One thought leads to the next and next thing you know you’ve caused yourself anxiety and a bad day.

When you get out of your head it’s so much more fun and that’s what I’m continuously learning. Also taking a stop to look around and letting the air hit your face you may realize everything is right where it needs to be, it just may not have happen the way you envisioned. Getting out of our head can actually get us closer to the goals we can’t stop thinking about. The older we get we realize life is really on our terms and we can do whatever we want at whatever pace we want. In the Art of not giving a F*ck the author talks about how continuously focusing on the next thing or worrying about getting more can cause you to think you’re lacking or further behind than you actually are, and that’s honestly so true. I know for me I’m always thinking about accomplishing the next goal and a lot of times I don’t give myself a chance to 1. sit in my current accomplishment or 2. Take a second to realize I have so many of the things I’ve always wanted.

We have to live life without all the extra added stress that we put on ourselves, even though its so much easier said than done we just have to learn how to TRULY stop giving af and just live with no limits whether they are inflicted by others or ourselves. We don’t want to look up and we’ve tricked ourselves out our spot. there’s money in our head but we’ll never get it if we don’t get out of our heads and into reality.

Cheers to getting older and learning how to not give a F*ck even more

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There's no manual to becoming a grown woman

There is no guidebook or blueprint of growing into a grown woman, we’re literally just figuring it out as we go and that means that sometimes we will make mistakes, sometimes we won’t know what to do and sometimes we may even have to start over.

Being a woman and getting older is such a beautiful experience but it is nowhere near easy, there are so many different requirements, expectations and standards put upon us by society, people around us, family, friends and so much more but the reality is this is our life and we have the ability to make it look like whatever we want.

So often people think you should be married by x time, you should have kids at x age, you should be focused on one thing and not the other, don’t try to dream too much because you have to focus on what is “guaranteed” to work, when the reality is NO ONE HAS THE ANSWERS SWAY. We are not required to have kids at all let alone at a certain age, getting/keeping a man and getting married does not have to be a top goal in your life maybe you enjoy being single or refuse to settle AND maybe that dream you’re chasing will pay off. People have so many opinions about our bodies and what we’re “supposed” to look like when we don’t have to do shit honestly and if we like how we look that's all that matters, they mad whether you got the BBL or you don’t. The reality is EVERYONE including other women always have something to say about women.

We are constantly learning, constantly deciding what we want to change or get better at, literally learning as we go. The woman you are right now may not even be the woman you are next week let alone next year and despite what people try to tell you it is okay to change and evolve, that’s literally what life is about. As we get older we learn the things we do and don’t like, we learn more boundaries, we gain more life experience and we learn what’s important and what doesn’t belong. Life isn’t always good but it DEFINITELY shouldn’t be always bad.

As women when we age we learn more about how our emotions work, how our minds work, more about our bodies, our health changes, how we like to present ourselves changes, what we do as a career may change, our interests change. We get more depth with the more life experiences we gain, we realize that the most important thing is to live and make our own rules. We get finer with time in all aspects and no matter the age we are ALWAYS in charge, we can’t allow anyone to make us think differently.

Traveling increases your life span

Every time I travel I feel like I’ve time lapsed or traveled to a new dimension of life.

When I come back from traveling it literally feels like I’ve time traveled and I’m in a different space than I was before the trip, not just physically but mentally, it feels like whatever was before the trip feels so long ago or far behind and idk what that is but its real. I saw something that said that traveling increases your life span and I really believe that.

I feel like when you travel it elevates your life and pushes you into a new level which is why it’s so important to travel as much as you can. Yes, with the way the economy is currently set up it makes it very hard to travel but you need to fit it into your lifestyle to do at least some type of trip at least once a year, even if its still within your state lines just in a place you’ve never experienced, even do a weekend staycation in a city nearby you.

A trip doesn’t always have to be for some extended period of time, you can do day trips or you can go away for a weekend, make it work for you, just make it happen. Don’t wait until your life is perfect to start traveling and opening yourself up to new cultures, new food and new experiences because nothing will ever be perfect and you just have to get out there and live. There are so many affordable avenues you can find to travel such as finding deals on flights, hotels and rental cars, using public transportation in cities where it is safe, deciding between airbnbs or hotels depending on costs and so much more. Also decide what you will spend your money on and you can make a lot more room for things you really want in your life.

Traveling adds so much more energy to your battery and we need that, a vacation is a break from your everyday motions and lifestyle, it adds spice to your life and allows you to blossom more into the person you want to become, you come back from vacation with a different mindset, new inspiration, more drive and a new boost of energy to keep pushing and going. I’m sure that everyone can attest that when they come back from vacation they feel new and like a breath of fresh air. I love vacation, I want to be a vacation.

10 things you can do to look pulled together

As a woman that is building a life and growing into herself and her career it is important to look pulled together. No matter what your style is make sure you do it well and you’re constantly refining it

Being well put together is the least you can do for yourself.

Being well put together is not only about how you look but it is a full body experience

1. Learn how to do a your go to makeup look and constantly learn how to perfect it

2. Invest in your knowledge and education

3. Find your style then start building your wardrobe

4. Invest in where you live. Your home should be a safe space and reflect who you are

5. Constantly build your skills

6. Learn how to speak well, learn how to properly pronounce things

7. Learn people skills and how to operate in social environments

8. Be open minded, go beyond home base and experience the world. Always be expanding your experiences

9. Be well rounded, learn about different things not just the things you’re interested in

10. Find your look. How do you want to present yourself to the world? What types of things do you like?

BONUS 11. Find a good skincare and hygiene routine

Grab my ebook How to be a boss to learn more about being the full package you’ve always strived to be and looking damn good while you do it. Its never about looking good to please anybody else but about feeling good and confident in yourself while you move through the world

STAY DOWN UNTIL YOU COME UP

Life really is in God’s hands and its up to us to do the best we can while letting him be the real change. We can’t be so stuck on how we wanted the journey to look that you don’t realize how beautiful it actually turned out. It’s way easier said than done but life teaches us constantly that it may not turn out how you wanted it to but it turned out the way you needed it to. Even with that said there’s still a flip side of staying down and continuing to push forward when your path or vision is altering or just taking longer than you expected.

So often I find myself reflecting on my life up to that current point and just seeing how beautiful things ended up even though life may have had me confused or outright whooping my ass but it turned out wayyyy better than I imagined it would, I may have learned a lesson that I will need as I move closer to my goal, I may have gained some blessings that I needed to accomplish as I’m striving forward. During the turmoil it may have not looked bright but it was really a blessing in disguise and things were always working out in my favor.

Anything worth having doesn’t come easy and it doesn’t come quick. You have to put the work in, be persistent, be consistent, be disciplined, pivot when necessary, get out of your comfort zone, think outside the box and constantly be evolving yourself, this process is not for the weak and truly only the strong survive. You can’t give up during the fire because you’ll never get to see it being put out and see how its restored. You gotta make it to the light at the end of the tunnel. The hard truth is life is hard so you have to pick your hard, do you want to work hard to get what you’ve always dreamed of or do you want the hard of living with not getting what you imagined your life to be like.

You heave to stay down for your come up because its coming just maybe not on the timeline you anticipated.

Black women are going to spend money and be loyal

Recently I went to the opening of the Savage X Fenty store in Downtown Detroit and I couldn’t stop thinking about just how strong Black buying power is and Black women are a main contributer to that. We are going to spend money and we are going to be loyal to the brands we like.

RIHANNA has not failed us yet!!!!! The Savage X Fenty store has officially opened in DETRIOT and I’m SO happy for me, Rihanna and my city because this is major! The store opened August 30th and you know I was there, cute and ready to buy. I waited in line about two hours and it was hot as hell but I was too deep in to turn back. Once I got in the store it was definitely worth it. Think Victoria Secret but 10 times better and BLACK OWNED. There were mocktails, good music and Black women spendingggg, which is what this post is actually about. Black women shop the most, spend the most money on the things they like and they’re loyal customers. We are the blueprint, so we make shit hot. Doing a disservice to Black women is doing a disservice to your business, because the grass is greener wherever we are.

One thing for certain and two things FASHO Black women are going to get out and SHOP and that is why you should market to us and include us, because if we like it we’re going to buy and and we might buy our mothers, sisters, friends, kids and nieces one too! And on top of that when we find something we like we’re going to buy it again and again AND spread the word. Like yes of course the store opening was filled with Black women and they were spending a BAG and buying for everyone in their family but in my teenage years I’ve worked at some of the top THAT GIRL stores two of those being Forever 21 and Victoria’s Secret. When Victoria’s Secret had a sale or were giving out a gift with purchase when you spent a certain amount Black women were in there SPENDINGGGG, and don’t let it be Black Friday. But even growing up especially in a family full of Black women going to the mall on Saturday (really just period but Saturday for sure) or going to TJ MAXX, Marshalls and Homegoods was literally a weekly activity. BLACK WOMEN are going to make that money so they can spend it on what they want. Which is why anytime you see a company come out with an actually great product and its marketed towards Black women they do WELL and don’t let it be Black owned, think Topicals, Fenty companies, Cecred, Black Girl Sunscreen, The Lip Bar, Glamaholic Lifestyle and so many more. we spend well and we create AMAZING businesses. Focus on the consumers that actually shop with your company and that are going to tell other people about it, because when we like something we will show up to stand in line in GROUPS, payment ready.

All in all Black women push the economy forward, that’s it.

xo ShaKayla Diamond

If you don’t have the right shoes, change the look

There’s nothing that kills a look like the wrong shoes. Don’t sacrifice a bomb look by putting on the wrong shoes.

There’s nothing I hate more than seeing someone ruin a look by adding the wrong thing and believe it or not SHOES are the biggest thing that can ruin a look if you don’t have the right pair. As a fashion girl since birth and a wardrobe stylist since 2016 I would rather you choose a different look if you don’t have the right shoes than deciding “oh this is all I have I’ll just wear these” because that’s exactly what it’ll look like with that horrible choice in shoes. This is the sole reason why as you’re building a great wardrobe shoes are equally as important as the clothes, you want to get a line up of shoes that can go with a variety of different looks, you want a mix of heels, boots and flats/relaxed shoes. You want to get shoes in the key colors but don’t be afraid to add in some with different colors, textures or patterns.

Don’t be the person with the look that was ruined by the shoes, you want people’s eyes to look at your whole look and know you look good than to love the look and when they get to the shoes its just disappointment.

The wrong shoes WILL ruin a good look, build up your shoe collection!

-xo ShaKayla Diamond

Live your life now, stop waiting

Summer act like it has somewhere to go, but I hope everyone is enjoying it as much as they can. Get outside, feel the sun on your skin and touch some grass.

My sole purpose of this post is to just come tell my readers that I hope you’re living your life for the now. Stop waiting for this “perfect” time to do x, y, z. Do it broke, do it scared, do it alone but just do it. Even though we think it is, life is not meant to always be 100%, there’s always going to be something that comes up, the marker is always going to move and that tomorrow will turn into the next day and the next, so stop waiting. All people have things going on in their lives no matter their financial or social status, but its up to you to take control of your life and choose to live it to its full capacity no matter the circumstance. Get out and enjoy your life now, find free things to do, try new things, go new places, meet new people, explore your environment, figure out how to travel on a budget, find ways to make more money to do the things you want to do, start that project, start that business, just do whatever thing you’ve been putting off waiting for whatever thing to happen because it might not and you don’t want to look up and realize you’ve waited all these years for something to fall in place and didn’t live your life outside of that.

We only get one life, so have fun with it. Stop worrying about what other people are going to say or think because it honestly doesn’t matter, what they eat doesn’t make you sh*t and no matter what they think or feel your life will not be affected unless you let it. Also I know its easier said than done, but stop worrying about what you don’t have and missing out on what you have been blessed with right now. What I’m continuing to learn is the more you worry about the future or even the past you miss out on being present for the right now and you don’t want to look back on parts of your life and wish you lived in the moment. Live in the now, hustle hard, give your best and whatever happens happens. The quicker you realize how I much control you have the quicker you’ll be able to embark on your journey of achieving your goals and living the life you desire, at any moment you can decide you want to change something. Its all about perspective remember that, the longer you think negatively about yourself and your life the more negative things will happen to you. You are in control of how your life plays out, simple. Enjoy the time that you have now, cheers to the summer.

Some of my favorite skincare products

Face

Lips

Favorite Body care products

I’m very particular about things especially my clothes, fragrances and the products I use. Here’s some of my favorite body washes, lotions and more. You gotta keep that skin soft and glowing!

Honorary mentions:

Coconut oil

I make some of my own exfoliants with coconut oil and brown or white sugar

I use Vaseline Cocoa Butter Lotion most times

In the shower I use two rags, one for my face and one for my body as well as a net sponge

I usually use regular Dove soap

Upcoming female rappers I’m loving

Ken the man

Lebra Jolie

Kali

Cleotrapa

Lakeyah

Monaleo

Connie Diiamond

Lola Brooke

This is a list of my favorite Upcoming female rappers. I love when the girls talk CASH $HIT, from Foxy and Lil Kim, to Trina, Jackie O and Nicki. A list of some of my overall favorite rap girlies is on the way!

I love GREAT BARS and these ladies serve it up every time, if you haven’t listened you should!

A few more upcoming rappers I’m starting to listen to:

Stunna Girl

Diamond the Body

Sexy Redd 🎶 Poundtown just left poundtown 🎶

Sorry I ghosted yall

I know I’ve been gone from here for awhile and I want to first start off by apologizing because this is my first baby and I truly appreciate all of you that have read any blog posts I’ve ever made from 2016 to now, but life be lifing as I’m sure y’all know. I hope over these past few months that y’all have been able to keep your head up and continue pushing forward regardless of anything that’s going on around you.

I turned 26 on March 13th and in my 20’s here’s a few things I’ve learned in the last 25 years

1. Your twenties are confusing as hell, I feel like you’re constantly questioning are you doing things right or are you on the right path

2. It’s never too late to change anything about yourself, you can decide today that you want to change something and act on it immediately

3. Time is a mind thing, don’t put a shot clock on yourself that doesn’t even really exist

4. Live for yourself, don’t worry about what everybody else is doing

5. Its okay to give yourself grace (this is an everyday battle for me)

6. Its okay to change, you don’t have to be the same person you were a year ago, a week ago or even yesterday

7. Its on you to want better for yourself and actually act on it, you have to save yourself

8. Zoom out and see the bigger picture, because we are the main character of our lives its so easy to be so focused on every little detail but some things aren’t as big as they seem when you look at the bigger picture

9. You circumstance right now could literally change in the blink of an eye

10. Realize that you’re living some of the dreams you used to pray for and be grateful

11. Pour into yourself, changing your mood and working on your mental health can literally help clear the storm you may feel like you’re in

12. Don’t be afraid to go in a new direction. Its not about what anybody else thinks if you want to do it go for it.

13. This is your life, what anyone else thinks doesn’t matter at all don’t let your mind trick you

14. An idle mind will curate thoughts that aren’t even true, recognize what’s reality and your mind playing tricks on you

15. We’re young as hell have fun

16. Its okay to take a break when you need to

17. No one cares as much as you think they do about small irrelevant situations

18. Put your wants, needs and goals first because others will do the same for themselves

19. Don’t allow yourself or others convince you of what you can’t have or achieve

20. Sometimes people need to be cut off no matter the relationship you have or had with them or how long you’ve had it

21. YOLO, live It up!!!!

22. Stop comparing yourself and worrying about what everybody else is doing

23. You’re in your own lane, don’t swerve over

24. Life is about perspective

25. Take your goals seriously but don’t take yourself too seriously

26. Live it tf up!!!!!!!

Favorite Cocktails to make at home

1. Margarita

2. Green tea remix

3. Cosmopolitan

4. Lemon Drop

I love making drinks at home, there’s nothing like setting the vibes in your own house. I taught myself how to make cocktails first by just putting together things I already had in the refrigerator seeing what I liked and just knowing what flavors tasted good together, I also started looking at recipes to learn the basic cocktails and making my own changes to classics. Nothing like knowing how to make a good drink without having to go anywhere.

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February Thoughts: Life be lifing

Coat: Pretty Little Thing// Turtleneck: Lexi Drew Boutique// pants: Forever 21// Boots: Lexi Drew Boutique// Bag: Telfar//

Hey y’all! I know it’s been a minute, but I’m here now and I’m going to start showing up more consistently on here because this is my original baby, we’ve been riding since 2016 and I see more people from all over finding these blog posts daily and I hope y’all are enjoying, are here to stay and subscribe to our newsletter!

I can’t believe it was just New Year’s Eve and now it’s February 21st, but if 2020 and 2021 taught us anything it’s that time waits for no man and it’s going to move very fast!

For me life has been pretty good I’ve been putting in lots of work with just a tad bit of fun, I’ve been staying focused and disciplined to accomplish my goals that I set for the year while working daily to try to get out of my head. But even though I’ve been working I’ve been feeling every emotion because that’s what life gone do to you regardless of how you feel about it. I wanted to come and give y’all my January and February thoughts because I’ve definitely had my eyes and ears open and to the ground and as I approach 25 even more things are coming into realization

1. You don’t have to be perfect, there’s room in life for error and you’re meant to make mistakes

2. We’re human, don’t take yourself too seriously

3. A new year is honestly just another day so you have to take the responsibility of shifting your mindset into something new

4. Lowkey life is crazy af, you realize so many new things everyday even down to the smallest things

5. Don’t trick yourself into thinking that small situations are a huge testament to your personality and who you are

6. Have fun, live out loud

7. Just do that sh*t

8. Nobody ever said it would be easy, but everything is hard so pick the hard that benefits you the most

9. You don’t have to force yourself into earning relaxation, you deserve a break and you don’t have to feel guilty about it

10. There’s no perfect time and you’ll never have all the answers

11. It’s okay to take things a day at a time

12. If you’ve had the vision it’s going to come to fruition you just have to believe and put the work in

13. Get out of your head

14. Do what works for you and don’t overthink it

15. Stick to your vision regardless of who has what to say, don’t get distracted my background noise

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November/Fall Thoughts

Top: Shein // Coat: Pretty Little Thing// Boots: Ego Shoes// Skirt: Shein// Sunglasses: My Depop

1. The time when summer ends and getting adjusted to Fall and the changes in your daily life isn’t a talked about enough experience

2. If we would’ve known life was this expensive we would’ve started saving at birth

3. Sometimes it’s easy to miss the transitions of when you dreams and prayers turn to reality

4. You gotta be your full self no matter how scary it could feel because you don’t want to regret pretending

5. Use what you got until you can get what you want

6. For a long time I didn’t give TikTok a chance but now I love it

7. As an entrepreneur it’s hard to feel like you have breaks because you’re always doing something, setting time aside for yourself is a whole task

8. Cherish the moment

9. The preparation period be dragging you and then it just start paying off and all making sense, like damn

10. You can subconsciously be holding yourself back, just do it. Make a plan and do it.

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Make Sh*t Happen 2022 Calendar

This Black Friday I released a 2022 calendar called the Make Sh*t Happen Calendar right in time to get ready for what I know is about to be an amazing year.

As an entrepreneur I use lists, journals and I’m always writing things down or typing something in my notes to make sure I stay organized and make sure things flow as smoothly as possible, because if I didn’t God knows I would be a mess and get nothing accomplished. Its possible to accomplish your goals but you have to set a plan, be strategic about the things you do and stay organized so that you can make it happen and scale it. It takes hard work and dedication but what could you want more than to have the life that you desire, there’s nothing I can think of.

Everything wasn’t perfect but in 2021 I’ve accomplished a lot of things that I’ve wanted to do, got to a new level that I’ve never been on before and just experiencing and doing more and elevating my life, but of course I want to go even further because my goal is to be continuously growing so because of that I created this calendar and the Make Sh*t Happen movement so that we can all go on a journey together to keep elevating our lives, motivating each other and getting exactly what we want unapologetically.

This calendar will help you log important dates on your monthly calendars, set monthly goals and have monthly check ins, sheets for tracking your finances monthly and weekly and even a strategy to visualize hitting a yearly financial goal, wellness goals sheet and it all starts with setting the tone for your year and a place to create your vision board. This calendar is going to be my guide to having the year I want to have and making more dreams a reality. We will be documenting our growth by using the Make Sh*t Happen w/ Kay hashtag #MSHWK on Instagram and other platforms and I want it filled with Black women making money, traveling and knocking these goals off one by one. I will also be creating a Make Sh*t Happen series on my YouTube channel because like I said we’re in this together!

Writing things down and organizing my thoughts is what’s helped me accomplish the things I’ve done and what’s going to continue helping me and I know I’m about to be using my calendar daily to make sure I’m staying on track, its time to get even more focused than before. If you trying to get this money and hit these goals in 2022 get your calendar now and start planning! What’s better than having your goals documented and easily accessible on a digital calendar your can access on your phone and you got somebody to do it with and hold you accountable! #Goals #2022Calendar #MSHWK

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