Traveling increases your life span

Every time I travel I feel like I’ve time lapsed or traveled to a new dimension of life.

When I come back from traveling it literally feels like I’ve time traveled and I’m in a different space than I was before the trip, not just physically but mentally, it feels like whatever was before the trip feels so long ago or far behind and idk what that is but its real. I saw something that said that traveling increases your life span and I really believe that.

I feel like when you travel it elevates your life and pushes you into a new level which is why it’s so important to travel as much as you can. Yes, with the way the economy is currently set up it makes it very hard to travel but you need to fit it into your lifestyle to do at least some type of trip at least once a year, even if its still within your state lines just in a place you’ve never experienced, even do a weekend staycation in a city nearby you.

A trip doesn’t always have to be for some extended period of time, you can do day trips or you can go away for a weekend, make it work for you, just make it happen. Don’t wait until your life is perfect to start traveling and opening yourself up to new cultures, new food and new experiences because nothing will ever be perfect and you just have to get out there and live. There are so many affordable avenues you can find to travel such as finding deals on flights, hotels and rental cars, using public transportation in cities where it is safe, deciding between airbnbs or hotels depending on costs and so much more. Also decide what you will spend your money on and you can make a lot more room for things you really want in your life.

Traveling adds so much more energy to your battery and we need that, a vacation is a break from your everyday motions and lifestyle, it adds spice to your life and allows you to blossom more into the person you want to become, you come back from vacation with a different mindset, new inspiration, more drive and a new boost of energy to keep pushing and going. I’m sure that everyone can attest that when they come back from vacation they feel new and like a breath of fresh air. I love vacation, I want to be a vacation.

10 things you can do to look pulled together

As a woman that is building a life and growing into herself and her career it is important to look pulled together. No matter what your style is make sure you do it well and you’re constantly refining it

Being well put together is the least you can do for yourself.

Being well put together is not only about how you look but it is a full body experience

1. Learn how to do a your go to makeup look and constantly learn how to perfect it

2. Invest in your knowledge and education

3. Find your style then start building your wardrobe

4. Invest in where you live. Your home should be a safe space and reflect who you are

5. Constantly build your skills

6. Learn how to speak well, learn how to properly pronounce things

7. Learn people skills and how to operate in social environments

8. Be open minded, go beyond home base and experience the world. Always be expanding your experiences

9. Be well rounded, learn about different things not just the things you’re interested in

10. Find your look. How do you want to present yourself to the world? What types of things do you like?

BONUS 11. Find a good skincare and hygiene routine

Grab my ebook How to be a boss to learn more about being the full package you’ve always strived to be and looking damn good while you do it. Its never about looking good to please anybody else but about feeling good and confident in yourself while you move through the world

STAY DOWN UNTIL YOU COME UP

Life really is in God’s hands and its up to us to do the best we can while letting him be the real change. We can’t be so stuck on how we wanted the journey to look that you don’t realize how beautiful it actually turned out. It’s way easier said than done but life teaches us constantly that it may not turn out how you wanted it to but it turned out the way you needed it to. Even with that said there’s still a flip side of staying down and continuing to push forward when your path or vision is altering or just taking longer than you expected.

So often I find myself reflecting on my life up to that current point and just seeing how beautiful things ended up even though life may have had me confused or outright whooping my ass but it turned out wayyyy better than I imagined it would, I may have learned a lesson that I will need as I move closer to my goal, I may have gained some blessings that I needed to accomplish as I’m striving forward. During the turmoil it may have not looked bright but it was really a blessing in disguise and things were always working out in my favor.

Anything worth having doesn’t come easy and it doesn’t come quick. You have to put the work in, be persistent, be consistent, be disciplined, pivot when necessary, get out of your comfort zone, think outside the box and constantly be evolving yourself, this process is not for the weak and truly only the strong survive. You can’t give up during the fire because you’ll never get to see it being put out and see how its restored. You gotta make it to the light at the end of the tunnel. The hard truth is life is hard so you have to pick your hard, do you want to work hard to get what you’ve always dreamed of or do you want the hard of living with not getting what you imagined your life to be like.

You heave to stay down for your come up because its coming just maybe not on the timeline you anticipated.

Black Owned Home Goods

So as you all should know about me by now I support everything Black and in the words of Issa Rae I’m rooting for everybody Black and Black owned brands and when I hear about a new business I definitely check it out. For the past month or two there’s been a surge in the support for Black owned businesses especially from Black people and it’s amazing to see from directories of all different types of businesses being created, to forums for Black creatives in different industries being created by Black people, to Black people promoting and buying from other Black people’s businesses. There is so much money and support circling back into the Black communities right now and more people learning about the importance of supporting Black owned businesses and I’m so here for it.

I love when people share Black-owned businesses that they love or businesses that they have heard about and are promoting it because it gives me the chance to be exposed to a new business and possibly some bomb a*s products and I may become a potential customer and a repeated customer if its good. This is a reason why it is important for businesses to be tagged or promoted if you like it, you don’t know how many new or potential clients you could give that business.

First off let me start by saying I’ve loved LIT BKLYN for a few years now from the story of the owner and how the business started to the quality of the product and the service. These candles (in the gold canisters) are amazing, they smell so good and are hand poured and packaged by the creator as many products from Black owned businesses are. The packaging is one thing that attracted me to this brand because with the gold it sticks out and whenever you see it you don’t have to question who created it but if you haven’t heard about it it definitely grabs your attention and makes you wonder what it is. The candles come in this size which is the travel size and full size options, I have three of the LIT Brooklyn candles and badly need to re-up because every time I get some they only last me like two weeks because I’m always burning them (they just smell that good), I have MUSE, and two of the BLUSH scented candles. I would highly recommend LIT BKLYN to anyone , but if you want to purchase you gotta be quick on your feet and your fingers because she sells out in like a minute! Click here to head to the website.

Secondly is the “Dirty Laundry” detergent in the scent Bergamot & White Thyme (smells SO good). So all my life I’ve been using the regular popular detergent like Gain and the others because that’s just what I grew up on and never really thought too much on venturing out, but I was on Instagram one day and came across either an ad or someone promoting BKLYN Bar soap and went to the website because I love seeing new Black owned businesses especially those that create natural body care or home care products and I already use natural soap and would love to purchase from a Black owned business something I already use anyway if I see something I like. On my first and only order thus far I purchased three bar soaps in different natural scents (all natural ingredients in everything) and the detergent and I will say that I was honestly satisfied and one of the soaps is definitely going to be a staple in my home. The detergent smells really good and has a clean natural scent with minimal to no additional or harmful chemicals, I could definitely tell the difference in how my clothes looked and felt compared to how they are when I wash clothes with the Gain I use (the results were even better). If you want to check out there products or website click here.

Lastly is the Rose Quartz candle that I ordered from Lulu Holistics which I found because someone I follow was promoting their body butter saying how much they liked it so I headed to the website and purchased the candle and an exfoliating scrub that literally smells like Black joy and Black people. I truly love both products that I ordered and will definitely be ordering again. The candle is made with real rose petals in it and a small rose quarts on top and the exfoliating scrub literally works wonders and makes your skin feel so good after using and its so good to use before shaving. I usually make my own scrubs but I will definitely be buying more from Lulu’s Holistics and checking out their other products. To check out their website click here would definitely recommend and she gives you a coupon code in your package to use on your next order.

All three of these brand’s products are amazing and I would definitely recommend you purchasing some things for your home as well. Take a little extra time to purchase the things you use from a Black owned business. Also when you purchase from a Black-owned business post about it and tell others so they can support as well or be introduced to something new especially if you like the product you receive or had a good experience with the business.

Drink Your Water and Mind your Business to Get ready for the Fall.

The year is almost coming to an end, but don’t underestimate the things that you can still get done in the few months that you have left of this year. If you have goals that you want to reach then strive for them, put your focus on and get ready to start putting some action behind your talking. Drinking your water and minding your business shouldn’t just be a phrase that you see on social media but a phrase that you implement into your everyday life.

If you haven’t yet done the things in your personal life that you’ve wanted to do then you have no time or business getting yourself into what others have going on and what they have or don’t have. So much good comes from minding the business that pays you. Sometimes you need to get off of social media and stop taking hours to scroll and put that time into doing something productive (we’re all guilty of this), people have to stop worrying about pleasing strangers on the internet with a false reality and focus on being pleased with themselves In real life.

It can be a new day, a new week, a new month, a new season or even a new year but there is no time limit or time restraint on changing your perspective, setting new goals, getting disciplined, getting focused, starting that project, going after those clients, marketing that product or service. Get to it, turn that misdirected energy towards something that’ll benefit you. You can say all of the positive things or look at the most motivational quotes but if you don’t change your mindset and put time and effort into your goals they won’t happen.

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"A woman's dress should be a like a barbed-wire fence: serving its purpose without obstructing the view." —Sophia Loren

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"The joy of dressing is an art."

           - John Galliano

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"You either know fashion or you don't"

                        - Anna Wintour

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"What you wear is how you present yourself to the world, especially today, when human contacts are so quick. Fashion is instant language." —Miuccia Prada

TuTus and T-shirts

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Shirt: Forever 21// Skirt: Forever 21// Bomber: Dollhouse Boutique// Shoes: Nike//

I'm all for being comfortable and fashionable, and for my fashionistas like me who like to hang up their heels every once in a while this is my "tomboy chic" look, to others dressing down or being relaxed may be much different for them but this is my sort of "dressed down" or relaxed fashion. I love a cute skirt or dress with cute sneakers as much as I love a graphic tee with a skirt, it's edgy and it's fashionable. Mind you these are my favorite pairs of sneakers and times I do wear them I like to dress them up. I dress how ever I want and just might give a different type of style everyday, but one thing I can say is my style and what I wear is always a reflection of me and what I like and that's all that matters!

Finding your niche and trusting the process

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     It is very important to follow YOUR dreams and no on else's, it's great to feel inspired by others and be motivated to get your life together and elevate yourself but it's very important that you don't try to implement their blueprint into your life because everything is made for the specific person it's happening to, what works for them may not work for you and vise versa. If you are trying to take what someone else is doing and do the exact same thing IT WILL NOT work the same! It is very important to set time aside to figure out what you want to do with your life and trying to take yourself to a new level everyday, but it's equally as important to trust the process and trust God's timing, you can't expect change overnight but just because it isn't happening quickly doesn't mean it won't happen at all, sometimes God won't bless you with something just yet because you aren't ready and if you receive a blessing when you aren't ready for it you may miss it or mess it up.

    One big factor in failure especially with women is jealousy, a lot of women feel that once one woman has it then it's no more left for them, just because someone gets the same position you wanted doesn't mean that you have to stop wanting to do those things, just because another woman has something doesn't mean that you won't. The worst thing to do is to compare yourself to others, your journey is different from theirs and you just never know what someone had to go through to get what they have. Find what you like to do and are interested in and trust your journey, you can't want the success and not want to go through the struggle. Everything happens for a reason. 

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"It's a new era in fashion - there are no rules. It's all about the individual and personal style, wearing high-end, low-end, classic labels, and up-and-coming designers all together." -Alexander McQueen