Get out of your head and stop giving a F*CK

I’m currently reading The Art of Not giving a F*ck and they are making so many valid points and one of them was not putting yourself in a loophole of hell, basically meaning we usually think ourselves into a bad space, we create the anxiety for ourselves. If we just did things and didn’t give a fuck about overthinking the outcome, care about what other people thought, why they might be thinking that and even the fact of why we’re overthinking all this, we would be wayyyyy better off. We can’t control everything so do things without trying too hard, do what feels right and stop trying to plan so much when it usually won’t go that way anyway. One thought leads to the next and next thing you know you’ve caused yourself anxiety and a bad day.

When you get out of your head it’s so much more fun and that’s what I’m continuously learning. Also taking a stop to look around and letting the air hit your face you may realize everything is right where it needs to be, it just may not have happen the way you envisioned. Getting out of our head can actually get us closer to the goals we can’t stop thinking about. The older we get we realize life is really on our terms and we can do whatever we want at whatever pace we want. In the Art of not giving a F*ck the author talks about how continuously focusing on the next thing or worrying about getting more can cause you to think you’re lacking or further behind than you actually are, and that’s honestly so true. I know for me I’m always thinking about accomplishing the next goal and a lot of times I don’t give myself a chance to 1. sit in my current accomplishment or 2. Take a second to realize I have so many of the things I’ve always wanted.

We have to live life without all the extra added stress that we put on ourselves, even though its so much easier said than done we just have to learn how to TRULY stop giving af and just live with no limits whether they are inflicted by others or ourselves. We don’t want to look up and we’ve tricked ourselves out our spot. there’s money in our head but we’ll never get it if we don’t get out of our heads and into reality.

Cheers to getting older and learning how to not give a F*ck even more

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STAY DOWN UNTIL YOU COME UP

Life really is in God’s hands and its up to us to do the best we can while letting him be the real change. We can’t be so stuck on how we wanted the journey to look that you don’t realize how beautiful it actually turned out. It’s way easier said than done but life teaches us constantly that it may not turn out how you wanted it to but it turned out the way you needed it to. Even with that said there’s still a flip side of staying down and continuing to push forward when your path or vision is altering or just taking longer than you expected.

So often I find myself reflecting on my life up to that current point and just seeing how beautiful things ended up even though life may have had me confused or outright whooping my ass but it turned out wayyyy better than I imagined it would, I may have learned a lesson that I will need as I move closer to my goal, I may have gained some blessings that I needed to accomplish as I’m striving forward. During the turmoil it may have not looked bright but it was really a blessing in disguise and things were always working out in my favor.

Anything worth having doesn’t come easy and it doesn’t come quick. You have to put the work in, be persistent, be consistent, be disciplined, pivot when necessary, get out of your comfort zone, think outside the box and constantly be evolving yourself, this process is not for the weak and truly only the strong survive. You can’t give up during the fire because you’ll never get to see it being put out and see how its restored. You gotta make it to the light at the end of the tunnel. The hard truth is life is hard so you have to pick your hard, do you want to work hard to get what you’ve always dreamed of or do you want the hard of living with not getting what you imagined your life to be like.

You heave to stay down for your come up because its coming just maybe not on the timeline you anticipated.

How to Make a Career Doing What you Love

As you get into adulthood or while you are an adult you are figuring out what you want to do and what you don’t want to do and where you want to take your career or what you want to do in this life to provide for yourself and your family. Many times we may choose a job not because we like it but because it pays the bills and then you blink and its 10 years later and something that was supposed to be temporary turned into something much longer. Also many times family, friends, or society tries to force you into picking something to do because it may bring “security” but you may not be happy with doing that but out of fear of scarcity you do it anyway. Many dreams go unaccomplished because of fear, which is not your fault because many times it is projected onto us by others fears for themselves, but I am here to tell you it is not too late to chase your dreams or try new and different things or multiple things at once.

Yes you want to make money, but you don’t want to spend the bulk of your days (work days are usually 8 hours in more structured or corporate environments) and you definitely don’t want to spend 8 hours of your life daily doing something that makes you unhappy because it will start to show in all other parts of your life and you definitely don't want to spend that eight hours somewhere that doesn’t see your potential and doesn’t pay you your worth which may cause you to be barely scraping by.

Whether its a dream job at a different company and in a different position or its starting from scratch creating your on business or businesses or streams of income it is definitely possible to attain, but you have to decide how important is your happiness to you.

5 Tips to make a Career out of What you love:

1. Stop caring about what others think or have to say, you are in charge of your life.

   Many times people don’t follow through with their ideas or plans because they have allowed other people’s views and opinions to discourage them and make them feel like what they want to attain isn’t possible, but just because its not possible for them doesn’t mean its not possible for you. Do you want to spend your life wondering “what if” or do you want to try it and see if it works out and if it doesn't then back to the drawing board and on to the next. Learn to be satisfied with your own opinions of your life and choices therefore you have no reason to look anywhere for answers because your decision may already be made.

2. Take the time to explore yourself, your interests, your non-negotiables, what makes you happy, what do you really want

   Many times people may not know exactly what it is they want to do but they know that they don’t like what they currently are doing. Take the time to explore different interests and things outside of your comfort zone, take on things as hobbies and then decide if you want to take them any further and start learning how you can do that. Figure out what you want your daily life to look like, how much money would you need to live the lifestyle you desire, what things make you happy, what types of structure do you work best in (flexibility or something more set in stone daily). You can’t find out what you want to do if you don’t truly know who you are or where you want to end up.

3. Let go of limiting expectations and mindsets

   Stop thinking that just because something didn’t work instantly that it means it won’t happen. Instant gratification isn’t realistic so get out of that, if you want results put in the time, the work and the effort and you will eventually see the benefit which might come slow or they might come fast but you have to remember that slow and steady wins the race and this is a marathon stop being in such a rush to “finish”. Grow up and stop thinking that just because something didn’t go the way that you expected that its all over, if plan A didn’t work figure out a Plan B to make Plan A work or if you heard one no either keep moving to the next until you hear a yes or find a way to make that no a yes. If you want everything to go your way when you want it and your mindset stops there and goes no further then you are meant to stay in the unhappy position you’re in because you don’t really want it forreal. You say you want all this money and this great lifestyle but your’e not willing to put in the work and at the first sign of inconvenience or stress you’re ready to throw in the towel, make it make sense.

4. Stop tying yourself down to things

   It is okay to change your mind, it is okay to change your mindset and it is okay to change your life at any given time that you feel the strength to do so. You are not tied to doing something just because you started it, no you shouldn’t give up on things easily or quit, but if you’ve truly tried your best and are not happy then let it go and move on. Not everything has to last forever and nothing has to be set in stone if you don’t want it to. Find your power and take it back and stop letting everything else drag you through life.

5. Realize your path is yours for a reason and will be different from others, give yourself time and grace

   You may accomplish things at a different pace than the people around you, it may take you a little longer or it may take you less time but you will never know unless you try your own shit in your own way. Do things the way you want to not the way others are doing it or think you should do it. Be yourself and stop trying to be a duplicate version or everyone else. There is one of you and that is your power. Nothing is an overnight success so give yourself time and grace to grow into who you truly are and continuously elevate that. Comparison is the theif of joy, you aren’t them and they aren’t you.

No one said it would be easy but pick a hard.